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Safety Guidelines


The LushDates.com online safety guidelines below have been put together to help you avoid uncomfortable situations and other problems.

Keep your anonymity.
TAKE YOUR TIME, and ask lots of questions. Don't give out any personal information, including your email address. Use our internal mailing system, which allows you to send and receive mail without using your real address. Get a good idea of what a person may be like before you give them your email address. You can set up free email accounts through services such as Yahoo, Hotmail, and others. Never give out your last name, home address, phone number, work information, or any other identifying information in your profile or initial emails. Don't communicate with anyone who attempts to pressure you into giving this information. Simply ignore them.

Use common sense and be cautious.
Don't believe everything you read or are told. Watch out for a person who is simply too good to be true. Watch closely for odd behaviour, the person may not be what he or she says. You're responsible to take all the time you need to make sure a person is honest and trustworthy. If you suspect a person is lying, they very likely are. Don’t get hurt by becoming prematurely intimate with someone. Don't be in a rush to fall in love, it will happen when it happens.

Ask for a photo.
A photo will verify a person's profile information and give you a good idea of appearance. If you keep getting excuses from someone who won’t provide a photo, it is probable that he or she is trying to hide something. Our site will scan in a photo for free, so there really aren't any good excuses for not doing it. A person may also send you a photo of somebody else. Be cautious.

Use the telephone. (A pay phone at first)
At the right time, a phone call will tell you many things about a person’s ability to communicate. Keep your number anonymous if possible, and use the conversation to find out more about the person to make sure you want to meet. Also call a co-worker, a friend, or a family member. The more people you talk to, the safer and more sure you will be. Only share your phone number when you feel absolutely sure about trusting the person. If you are being pressured to meet, ask to speak to the person’s mother first.

Meet only when you are ready.
Try to be patient. One of the wonderful things about meeting somebody online is that you can gain so much information about a person before you feel you need to meet. You have NO obligation to meet anyone, ever. Stay away from people that make you uncomfortable.

Warning signs.
Behaviour such as anger, demeaning or disrespectful comments, physically inappropriate comments and behaviour, intense frustration or attempts at pressuring or controlling you are obvious warning signs. Stay away from people like this; just ignore them. Watch for the following characteristics:

  • If information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, and other information is inconsistent.
  • If they will not speak to you on the phone after establishing an ongoing relationship.
  • If they are evasive and will not directly answer questions.
  • If there is a difference from his or her online profile.
  • If they will not introduce you to friends, professional associates or family members.

Meeting the first time.
Choose the safest possible environment. Even if you think you know every detail about a person and you trust them implicitly, meet in public where many people are around. Also, tell someone where you are going and when you will be back. Use your own transportation to get to and from the date. Go somewhere very familiar to you. Be brief, one or two hours is plenty. You will have plenty of time for longer dates. If your date disagrees with this guideline or any of the guidelines listed here, you shouldn't meet that person.

Travelling to meet someone.
Always use your own transportation. Don't allow your date to make the arrangements. If the location where you are meeting seems unsafe, awkward, or inappropriate - go back home or to your hotel. And of course, make sure a friend or family member knows your plans and has your contact information. Take a mobile phone with you if you can.

If in doubt.
Just leave. Its always better to be safe than sorry. Your safety is obviously more important than worrying about embarrassment, your behaviour, or what another person may think of you. Just leave.

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Dating Safety

Please observe these basic rules when arranging to meet up with someone.

  • Always meet away from home, in a public place where there are other people.

  • Make your own way to and from the meeting.

  • Always tell someone where you are going.

  • Never give your home address until you are completely confident.

  • Stay safe, if the person you meet is genuine they'll understand.
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